Before you dive down under, we’ve got a few general tips that’ll be useful to keep in mind:
· Use a condom or dental dam with a new partner. STDs can be transferred through oral sex, so use protection until you’ve both been tested.
· Everyone has a taste or smell. Don’t make your partner feel uncomfortable about theirs (but do feel comfortable asking that you both wash first).
· Take breaks if you get jaw ache. You can always switch to a toy to keep things going.
· Blend oral with a hand job. Oral sex gets even better when you bring in your hands to help. Use your fingers to follow and intensify your tongue’s movements, for example, or to stroke the shaft or lips while your mouth focuses on teasing the tip or clit.
· Is your partner feeling shy? To take the pressure off, try pleasuring yourself at the same time. Grab a bullet vibe and trace your labia, shaft or balls, slowly turning yourself on while they watch. Then, once you’re both feeling hot, offer to use the vibe to tease them too.
· Try holding eye contact. Looking your partner in the eye as you give them head communicates a sexy confidence.
· Let them know you’re having fun. If moaning feels natural, go for it. Show that you’re enjoying pleasuring your lover by doing what feels right to you. If you prefer to use body language, use your hands to stroke your lover’s thighs and stomach to communicate how into this you are.
· Learn on the job. You’ll get more skilled the more you practice, but every body is different. Stay open to exploring what works best for each person.
· Encourage constructive feedback. Only they know what feels amazing to them – so ask them to school you in the art of bringing them to climax. Think of it as a kind of dirty talk; it’s also a new way to get to know each other, and to bring you closer as partners.
